My Testimony

Are you a single father. I mean a father no matter if you have custody or not. Divorced? Maybe your girlfriend or even an ex girlfriend has told you that heart stopping news that your the dad to her baby? Your not alone. Statistics how that single fathers is the fastest growing population in the Nation.


Father 2 Father – Grants Pass, knows your pain, your concerns, Not only be cause we are a fellowship of single fathers but because I am one. I've been single now for about a little over a year. My now ex wife walked out on our son January 3, 2014 and flew back to Michigan from Oregon 3 weeks later with no effort to see our son or even talk to him before.


But what lead to her walking out on us? We were married on September 23, 2008. She was 6 months along with our son, Aden. Within 5 months our marriage went from bliss to falling apart. She was constantly accusing me of being unfaithful. Was I? No never in our 5 years of marriage and then 9 months of waiting for my divorce that I filed for to be final.


But yet I held on, and placed everything In my Savor Jesus Christ. I started to feel like Job in the old testament. Granted Job had a lot more taken away from him. Things like his wife, sons, daughters, livelyhood, wealth. Everything that can and will hold us back from counting everything that God has given a joy. IT can become evil to us if we were to keep it. So sometimes it is better off to be taken away by thieft. Besides if all things comes from God and He allows for it to be taken to get ahold of us again. Is it really thieft? NO. I was loosing friends because they could not stand her. I felt that I was an alien in my home town. Which is ok because this world is not my home I am merely passing through. But things do get lonely not having anyone to talk to.


Job 1:1-22 In the land of Uz there lived a man whose name was Job. This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil. (2) He had seven sons and three daughters, (3) and he owned seven thousand sheep, three thousand camels, five hundred yoke of oxen and five hundred donkeys, and had a large number of servants. He was the greatest man among all the people of the East. (4) His sons used to hold feasts in their homes on their birthdays, and they would invite their three sisters to eat and drink with them. (5) When a period of feasting had run its course, Job would make arrangements for them to be purified. Early in the morning he would sacrifice a burnt offering for each of them, thinking, "Perhaps my children have sinned and cursed God in their hearts." This was Job's regular custom. (6) One day the angels came to present themselves before the LORD, and Satan also came with them. (7) The LORD said to Satan, "Where have you come from?" Satan answered the LORD, "From roaming throughout the earth, going back and forth on it." (8) Then the LORD said to Satan, "Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil." (9) "Does Job fear God for nothing?" Satan replied. (10) "Have you not put a hedge around him and his household and everything he has? You have blessed the work of his hands, so that his flocks and herds are spread throughout the land. (11) But now stretch out your hand and strike everything he has, and he will surely curse you to your face." (12) The LORD said to Satan, "Very well, then, everything he has is in your power, but on the man himself do not lay a finger." Then Satan went out from the presence of the LORD. (13) One day when Job's sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother's house, (14) a messenger came to Job and said, "The oxen were plowing and the donkeys were grazing nearby, (15) and the Sabeans attacked and made off with them. They put the servants to the sword, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!" (16) While he was still speaking, another messenger came and said, "The fire of God fell from the heavens and burned up the sheep and the servants, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!" (17) While he was still speaking, another messenger came and said, "The Chaldeans formed three raiding parties and swept down on your camels and made off with them. They put the servants to the sword, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!" (18) While he was still speaking, yet another messenger came and said, "Your sons and daughters were feasting and drinking wine at the oldest brother's house, (19) when suddenly a mighty wind swept in from the desert and struck the four corners of the house. It collapsed on them and they are dead, and I am the only one who has escaped to tell you!" (20) At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship (21) and said: "Naked I came from my mother's womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised." (22) In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.


All I knew to do was what is found in Ephesians 6:10-18. This is what I stood strong on. Knowing that my loving Savor had my back and would not let me fall. It would be by His grace that I would make it though the nightmare of being unequally yoked. There is a reason why Paul warns us about being “yoked together with unbelievers”. 2 Corinthians 6:14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?


Darkness , wickedness, sin is anything that is at odds with Light, righteousness or God. I won't go into this right now but later in other writings I will talk about this.


When we put on the full armor of God it doesn't mean that we wear a literal steel knights armor. God's armor is Prayer, study of His word, fellowship with both His fellow children and also with HIM. By having God's armor on you know His word enough to fight back against the devils attack on you. You then can use His words to fight all of the battles that attack you in the spiritual realm. This is how I was able to stay in the fight for so long.


Ephesians 6:10-18 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. (11) Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. (12) For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. (13) Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. (14) Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, (15) and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. (16) In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. (17) Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God. (18) And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the Lord's people.


Seeing his heart literally get ripped out because of her and going though a time of healing himself. I started to really resent my wife when she walked out. I can honestly say that I felt hatred towards her for hurting my young son. To this day he still doesn't want to talk to her. But my rule is that he at least has to talk to her weekly to keep that communication line open. April I was finally able to file for my divorce as I had been in the state of Oregon for a total of 6 months in accordance to state law.


Paperwork was officially filed May 1 2015 and my wife was officially served by registered mail May 5th. So in the following 30 days she would call me daily and call me every name in the book except for a white boy and of course blame me for the breakup. As time ticked by there was still no response by her in the courthouse as I would call daily to see if they had received anything via mail. Then June 5th I received that joyous phone call that I could go ahead and proceed with filing for the default judgment as she had failed to respond in a timely manor.


Then July 11th I get yet another call from the courthouse saying that they had received back from the judge my motion and that he had signed it. Divorce was final. I had sole custody. Visitation also has to be done in the state of Oregon and they had to be supervised by someone approved by me and all expenses paid by her.


That is not where this ends but now just restarts and starts a new chapter in our lives at the same time.


After my divorce being final. I happen to met a wonderful lady. And introduce her to my son. It's hard to believe that that this month marks 6 months that I have been dating. But at first I was very apprehensive about introducing her to my son. I was scared to do that but finally did. In less than 6 months she has managed to become someone that my son wants to talk to and will grab my phone to call her on his own. She loves to cuddle with him when he is wanting to.


September comes and so does his first day of Kindergarten. Who was with me w hen I dropped him off at school and to get those fist day pictures and ball my eyes out because my baby is growing up? Non other than my girlfriend. Always wanting to be there for not only me but also my son.


December 9th Aden's 6th birthday. Of course we celebrate his 6th birthday as we always had. I get ready do call his mom so that she can join in with us as we sing happy birthday to him and he says no dad not today. I believe that was his way of saying don't give her the satisfaction of being able to wish me a happy birthday because she isn't here to do it in person.


Now in 2015, so far nothing has changed except I am enjoying being a single father to a wonderful young boy who is always testing and teaching me new things.


I shared with you what makes me no different than any other single father that comes and visits my site or contacts me to talk about their situation. I don't ever share their situations because of confidentiality which I believe in. I also look at it this way if they are comfortable doing so then they can share what they choose to. The only thing that I would do is pass on first names to my prayer team so that they can pray for every father that contacts this ministry.


Here in the near future I would like to start holding meetings as a way to get to know other single fathers in the area. These meets would be held in a church building but by no means would you be forced in to going to that church. In fact if you have a church that you go to or would like to go to I would be more than willing to visit with you. We do believe that in order to be the best father possible regular attendance at your church of choice is vital.